I have been checking out Cobra Kai and you can watch and figure out who truly loves themselves and who doesn't. Then you need to ask who thinks winning matters the most and piece together the relationship between self hate and winning matters. You should also be able to see where each character lost his self love which created the desires for external love in winning. Also, notice how each character reacts when faced with an abundance of negative energy.
If your life is anything like the show and you want a real life Sensei trust me repeat, "my true love is ourselves and winning doesn't matter." If you have any issue in life it all stems from self hate, falsely determining your self hate will never allow you to dominate life regardless of what you win. In order to get the things you wish to win focus on only doing that which builds true self love and focus only on doing that and never try and win. If you win these things you once wished for it doesn't matter. And it doesn't matter if you don't win them. It's all external and irrelevant from your abilities to truly love yourself. All trophies turn to dust and we die alone. Love yourself truly before you die.
You will soon live life without anger, jealousy, fear, depression, crying, greed, drug addictions, alcoholism, violence, and any negative human trait. You must first master loving yourself in life. You know in your heart what makes you truly love yourself and what doesn't. Listen to your heart and do only the things that allow you to truly love yourself. Disconnect from your external love desires and the more you truly love yourself the less power they will have over you.
Self hate is the only enemy we face in life. Take the negative energy and use it to fuel building your true self love and keep your self hating ego in check by never caring if you win or lose. This is the way of the total positive energy dominating hero.
That is all.